Last May my wife and I were up in the Olympic National Rain Forest in Washington state right around our 36th anniversay. One evening my wife asked me who has changed more?
Initially I said she had. I get this surprised look. Then I thought about Sophie making her appearance, then I said maybe it was me. Then I thought about it some more and
said it was definitely her. She brought it up again recently, so I told her I would ask the group.
Here are just a few of the reasons I think she has changed the most.
1. As a wedding gift, she quit smoking cold turkey.
2. She could not see herself having children and we have two grown boys
3. She/we have hosted many many foreign exchange students. She taught English classes to Japenese students visiting for the summer. We had two full year studentn live with
us, one from Tajikistan and one from Maldova.
4. She home schooled both our boys, pre-school through high school.
5. She has developed an eccentric group of friends.
6. She has completed two geneology books. One was a small book for a friend who wanted to get it into her 93 year mother's hands before she passed. The other is a 450 page
book that took 9 years to complete.
7. She has become very knowledgable about health and nutrition. She has lost 80-90 pounds without a lot of exercise. She strives for 8 hours of sleep/night.
8. Her empathy has grown. One day we were riding a bus heading down town with one of our foreign exchange students. A CD and her wife got on. Our foreign exchange student
was taken aback on seeing her. My wife knew the couple and got up hugged them and chit chatted.
9. Our niece, the daughter of her sister, was a flower girl at our wedding. She developed ALS and lived near us in a three story apartment. We had her and her son move in with us.
It has been at least three years now and her son just started high school. We will be care giving/hospice care for the next couple of years.
10. We just want each other to be happy. She is fully supportive of Sophie. She enjoys going to some of the local t-girl events. I remember reading something like
"when she comes out of the closet, the wife goes in.' I think that this initially happened, she wasn't quite sure who to talk with. She told her best friend, and
got a rather cool responce. Her girl friend was ok, but no way her husband would be. I think this is the main reason I think she has changed the most. I cannot phantom all the changes she had to juggle, but she just takes in stride now. She still worries about my safety and today's political climate.
Love to hear if changed the most or your SO?
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Originally Posted by char GG
