Who here is married and share their dressing with their wife?
I am and do. We love it. It would be nice to share experiences with other couples x
Who here is married and share their dressing with their wife?
I am and do. We love it. It would be nice to share experiences with other couples x
It's an interesting relationship my wife and I have about my crossdressing. As long as I do the MIAD she's fine with whatever I wear, even if it's just lingerie. She's fine with it like that, all the way to being intimate.
But if I try to wear a bra underneath anything, or padding, or makeup, wig, heels, etc she doesn't like it very much and underdressing outside the house upsets her as well.
Haven't quite figured it out yet, I guess.
Hi sylph
My wife is fine with all aspects of me dressing, make up, breasts, shaving etc, even going out, she can?t wait, we haven?t done that yet,
she also loves intimacy whilst wearing sexy underwear but not fully dressed. I get that as I wouldn?t be able to if she was dressed like a man. To be honest I do not want that either, when I?m en femme I want to be treated like a girl.
I started dressing up for date nights with my wife knowing and helping to buy me lingerie. There was a hard no to bras, dresses and wigs. She wasn't thrilled about me getting a skirt but said mini skirts are ok just don't look like you are going to the office. Over time I was allowed to buy a wig and wear it but not in front of her. She started letting me wear it in the bedroom and she would keep it dark or wear an eyemask. After a while she would peek a bit and then it was fine to wear the wig. The only wigs I could get were the colored party wigs. I got a Mrs. Clause dress for Christmas and then she decided that I needed boobs with the dress. So it was over time that I was able to fully dress in makeup, wig, forms, bras and dresses with heels. Now I get up and become Kitty most mornings. I still don't have any natural looking wigs but have more girl clothes than my previous wardrobe. It was a process and I didn't think I would take it this far in the beginning and we are still finding our way. I am so happy to be blessed with such an understanding wife.
That's just how we were for several years. Now it's DADT mostly. Take care. My wife is more important to me me than dressing. I need that security in my life. I hope yours's excepts you as you are, but be ready in case she does not fully go fo it.Originally Posted by SylphDevine
I'm married. My wife and I share everything.
Except she hasn't seen me dressed, or even pics of me dressed. She hasn't seen any of my clothes. She doesn't know if I have wigs or makeup. I go out and about with trans friends who she's never met.
OK. Here's the real truth. She knows practically nothing. She knows I crossdress. She knows I go out dressed. Sometimes she asks where I'm going dressed. She always asked when to expect me home. I dress after I leave the house and I either undress before I come home or I come home after everyone is asleep. When returning from the Keystone Conference, I forgot to take off my nail polish. I thought I'd be covered under the "after everyone's asleep" clause. But, no. She wasn't awake and was not happy. It's just a good thing I didn't get gel polish, acrylic nails or dipping nails.
Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
people have such interesting relationships...my wife and I have been in don't ask/don't tell mode for years, but that's beginning to change.
I am married and I told my wife shortly after meeting her knowing I had to tell her so there would be no secrets between us. There has been growth with my dressing as years have passed, but that is with lots of communication between us about my dressing.
I can freely dress almost any time in front of her and it doesn't matter if it is just lingerie or fully dressed including a wig. Her only request is not to dress on major holidays and her birthday. Also, she prefers I only dress about 1/2 the time, although she has no problem with me wearing panties everyday. Really complicated at times.
She prefers that I don't go out in public dressed, for fear of someone seeing me that know us. I do our weekly shopping by myself while she is still in bed, and on colder days I will wear more women's clothing knowing that my coat can hide everything.
Last year while on vacation she suggested that I dress while we are driving, which I fully enjoyed. However, I didn't interact with anyone until on the last day driving back home. With her suggestion and support she said I should go into a convince store to get something to drink. I asked her to go in with me for support which she did. We were greeted with "Hello ladies" when we walked in and I was the one that paid for our drinks, so I had to interact with the clerk.
Like I said at times the wife and I have a complicated relationship when it comes to my dressing.
I am one of the super lucky ones here. I came out to my wife about 5 years ago, 38 years into our marriage. She has been wonderful! From the beginning she bought me makeup and helped me look better. She buys the occasional top or other item for me. We go out for drinks and/or dinner with me dressed. We just went to see the Met opera in a movie theatre yesterday. I can dress as much or as little as I want. She doesn't mind seeing me in any combination of boy or girl clothes. She has sometimes suggested outings for us. Once in a while she will decide that she's seen enough of Joanie for a few days, and I happily comply. She has one or two restaurants she wants me to only visit in boy mode, and again, I happily go along, since she is ridiculously supportive. I just wish I had told her sooner.
I am in the middle somewhere. Wife has seen me completely done up many times. She has seen my Natalie clothes and lingerie drawers.
Can we be normal when I am dressed? Yes.
Can we leave the house together, NO she is very worried that people we see me.
Most recent relationship...Not a marriage but, a long term relationship.
My girlfriend knew about my dressing. I'm not so sure it was as exciting to her, as it was for me but, she was very supportive. She saw me dressed. She gave me the freedom to meet men, and other T women when dressed. We occasionally met others socially, and for intimate times while I was dressed. We went out together when I was en femme, though it was kept to CD venues, and non-public activities like drives and short walks.
Verona, I told my wife that I dressed before we moved in together. We have gone out many places dressed. She is very supportive.
Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".
I've been married fifty years and dressing for about fifteen of those years. It had never crossed my mind before about 2009 or so. I discussed it from the beginning and as my experimentation grew. I'm a bearded guy with no inclination to pass or even look like a woman. I do wear dresses, skirts, women's shorts with various tops around the house and have a small selection of shoes. I have a huge selection of panties and moderate selection of bras.
My wife is closer to mere tolerance than acceptance. I've begun dressing daily over the last few months and am dressed almost full time at home. I've also begun wearing subtle makeup over the last couple of months. I keep hoping that she'll become more than tolerant but there's always an undercurrent of disapproval. Our history makes her lack of approval less influential to what I decide to wear. She'll occasionally compliment an item of clothing I'm wearing but has never complimented ME in the clothing, that way she can claim to be supportive without really being more than accepting. I've been hoping for more but have come to accept that the "support" I have is all there'll ever be.
To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. ~ Timothy Keller
My wife sees me dressed often, has bought me a few dresses, skirts, and night gowns as gifts. She has been out with me dressed on vacations.
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Escapism isn't necessarily bad, but is definitely unhealthy in the long term. While helpful in the short term, things will degrade over time. At some point, the escapee will have to face the issue. Things simply blowing over isn't really going to happen in many situations.
My wife of fifty years has only recently come to accepting my dressing. Her first inkling of acceptance was consenting to my wearing panties, which she helped pick out. I then broached the subject of wearing a bra due to gynecomastia, and she helped choose one as well. Next was my suggestion of sleeping in a night gown, and again, she helped me purchase one. When cold weather was here, I had to work outside and suggested that I wear leggings for comfort. She bought me a pair which I have been wearing frequently.
We now spend our evenings relaxing in panties, bra, nightgown and leggings, which has become our new normal. I have no plans to further my feminine presentation and am quite content and grateful for her acceptance.
Last edited by Monique65; 05-14-2024 at 05:52 AM.
Honoring the woman within
My wife has known about my dressing since our second or third date some 30+ years ago. I am able to dress freely when the kids are not home. She has helped me with all aspects of dressing, from purchasing clothing and make up before Amazon or Ebay were in existence, to helping me with female mannerisms. Aside from three other people, no one knows about my dressing. We recently started discussing the idea of talking to another couple who has a similar dressing arrangement as us.
I am just a guy who enjoys wearing women's clothing and there is nothing wrong with that.
My wife and I have been out a few times.
She will not go out with me locally because
of possibly of being recognized together.
We've done fast food, shopping and casinos away from home.
Last edited by Andrea Renea; 05-14-2024 at 12:07 PM.
My wife knows about my dressing and is very supportive we often have nights in with me dressed. We've not ventured out in public and she'd rather leave it for her eyes only...I'm happy to go along with that. I get to dress in what I'm comfortable in, get advice on clothing combinations and make-up tips. She often buys me or points out fem clothing she thinks will suit me. I consider myself very lucky.
I, too, am blessed with a totally supportive wife. She?s been a great help, especially with makeup. We live in a smaller town, so our going out is done carefully. Getting caught would not be good.
Yes my wife and I share my cross dressing and has for the past 3 years.
I am dressed daily in some form, usually when I am off work. We share some clothing items or I get some nice hand me downs as she's loosing a little weight. We share some makeup, and she take my pictures most of which get posted here. I am very fortunate to be able to dress how I wish.
Its always nice to meet new people that are in a similar situation.
-Jessica <3
I am and we have shared this for nearly 20 years.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
I broke the news to her about 5 years ago. She was totally cool with it. I couldn’t be happier.
My wife has been supportive with much of it. She has some ground rules she asks I follow. She has shopped with me, for me and even bought me a bureau of drawers for my intimate things. She has loosened the rules slowly as time goes on
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