My wife knows I crossdress, and that was after The Talk, Chapter 1.
Chapter 2 was a lot worse. My wife started talking about my evening use of the computer, and how I should stop it. She said it was bad for me, and bad for our relationship, She knows that I shop on the computer and she doesn't like it. It's not money, because I'm spending my money, not out money. She just doesn't like it.
Then she started pushing all my buttons, although, I think I remained pretty calm about it.
We sleep in different bedrooms. She moved out about 9 years ago. At that time, it was because my CPAP was too loud for her to fall asleep. But she keeps changing her story. Sometimes she says it's about when I stay up to late on the computer. She's also implied that sleeping with a crossdresser, albeit one who doesn't crossdress around her, creeps her out.
She went upstairs to bed while I contemplated the tongue lashing I received. I was a little p'd off about it. I got up stairs and went into her room just to say goodnight. And she starts all over again with me. That was more than I could handle tonight.
So I told her, very calmly, that maybe we should consider a trial separation. And, remember, I said it first.
The first thing she asked was what good would a trial separation do? I said it would be a way to find out if we are better living apart, or living together with a change in the ground rules.
The very next thing she said was, "How can we afford it?" She already knows the answer, we can't, without a drastic change in lifestyle. So, as Seinfeld would say, It's out there now.
After I left her room, my wife came into mine and said this is good, We're finally talking honestly.
Teresa, if not for the grace of God, I will be following you.