I have been considering coming out to my mom for a while now. I have exhaustively considered the issue from every angle I can. I have received the advice of people on this forum (see post titled "Coming out to my mom"). I have talked it over with my counceler. I have made multiple charts listing pros and cons.
I have come to the conclusion that I should tell her. And I will be telling her this evening. About 4 hours from now.
Life is too short. Time is too precious. I believe this is the right decision for both of us.
Briefly, here are my reasons for my decision:
1: No more lies.
2: She will probably discover me anyways, if she hasn't already. She lives with me. If I start the conversation, I can have more control over the direction it takes.
3: She does already know a little from my teenage years. She knew about the lingerie then, and she was supportive. This is a lot more than just the lingerie fetish it was then, but it is a good sign.
4: I don't want to live my life regretting what might have been.
5: I have considered the worst possible response that still feels like it could reasonably still happen. I can live with that scenario. At worst, I see it becoming a DADT situation. This is based on what I know about her specifically. I also consider the most likely outcome to be at least more supportive than DADT. Possibly a bit of weirdness for a while, but an overall positive experience.
6: There are so many good things that could come from this. I feel like we could become much closer if we can talk freely about this.
7: I need to be Jasmine part of the time. Only being Jasmine in the middle of the night is not fulfilling my needs.
There is much more I can say on this subject, but I will save that for another time. I have written 44 pages in my journal in the last 3 days. All trying to figure out what I should do.
When I go to talk to her tonight, I will have a few brief notes on paper so I can make sure I cover the most important things.