How do you maintain a balanced between your two sides? Here?s what I do. Interested to see if others have a different approach.
https://www.kandis-land.com/give-yourself-permission-to-be-both/
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How do you maintain a balanced between your two sides? Here?s what I do. Interested to see if others have a different approach.
https://www.kandis-land.com/give-yourself-permission-to-be-both/
Most definitely
The short answer is, no. The honest answer is, sometimes. I think we all have internalized transphobia that rears its head every once in a while. The key for me is recognize that it is happening and...
Thank you Kandi. Thank you in particular for pushing me to explore these issues and to have this discussion with the community. And, thank you, especially, for being a great friend. ❤️
In boy mode I have one mask - completely utilitarian and boring. However, Julie has at least a dozen masks, and its always a question about which mask will match the outfit.
How could I not be? Have you seen me - I?m totally hot.
Wow!!! I am really surprised by the answers of everyone else, cuz I am most definitely a (6).
I am gonna hold my tongue and just say that I am disappointed with the way many here have...
I think this is true. I am particularly put off by the rather popular meme that says, ?Just because I dress like a girl, that doesn?t mean I?m gay.? Seems like it should be pretty obvious, at least...
I had the same experience the one time I flew pretty. Important to note that my ticket had my male name, indicated my sex as male and my ID matched. TSA doesn?t care what you wear, but all the...
It?s a bit of both. I like being a guy, shlepping around without a care for what I look like. It?s the mode for taking care of the ordinary parts of life. But, then Julie is tons of fun, outgoing...
1) No. I tried it for a few weeks a few years back and it was mostly uncomfortable and distracting.
2) Julie starts and ends with hip pads. I usually start my transformation with the first half of...
Not a chance! No way! Never! Why would I want to be one of those boring cishet people? If I was that boring, I would have to start doing something super boring like golf.
Starfire
Apparently, I am atypical. I read the comments and see a lot of suggestions about stealth and blending, don?t talk to anyone or you will be clocked, and don?t go to bars by yourself. OMG, I am all...
To your statement here, ?when I take it off or get done meeting a guy I kind of feel ashamed. Last month when I got done meeting the guy I said to myself this isn?t who I am and threw everything...
For a couple decades I was perfectly content with dressing at home and lounging around the house. But, after my first time out it totally lost its appeal. I remember doing it a few months after my...
Hi Klaire, It?s an interesting question, but let me ask you why no one asks this question to Superman/Clark Kent? That analogy is basically where I?m at. Julie is like my super hero side - out in the...
I use AirBnB frequently, especially in the summer when the hotels in downtown Chicago are really expensive. Usually, just rent a room rather than the whole place. In either case, I always tell the...
Yeah, it?s the same Burlesque company we saw during Pinkfest and the performance will be at the same theater. It?s kinda surreal to think that I?ll be going from the audience to being on the stage....
Michelle and April, Yes, I?m rehearsing at home and in the class on heels. Looks kinda goofy with heels and my guy shorts and my guy face, but it?s kinda essential if I?m planning on heels in the...
So, I did a thing. I enrolled in a Burlesque dance class. Basically, it?s 5 weeks of class and ends with a stage performance. The group is the instructor, myself and two other students (all 3 are cis...
On the subject of passing, I submit this previous post as my advice on the subject
https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?254141-Going-Out-and-Passing/page3
No risk, no reward. So happy you put yourself out there and a found so level of acceptance, especially in a person you least expected. A lesson for all of us.
I?m actually surprised that so few have declined, it?s only been maybe 2 out of a dozen. The acceptance of those that did accept the request far makes up for the minor setback. I?m not trying to push...
I?m all about the staycation. Just about every time I go out, I get a hotel room in town. I understand the necessity of dressing in the car, but I don?t ever see myself doing it. I like to take my...