I recently posted in the New Members Forum and was advised to also post here. I hope to get help from many of you. Here is the post:
I have spent the past several days looking at various posts and responses. I feel a kindred spirit with many of you. I look forward to exchanging thoughts and questions with the group.
For starters, I am past 50 and married to a wonderful woman. We have three sons. I have been dealing rather poorly with the idea of being a CD for most of my life. She outed me several years ago and insisted on counseling. Since then I have restricted my CD to limited items of apparel. Only recently did I bring up the subject with her again. I relealized I was not ""cured" and indicated I wanted to do research on support groups. My eyes have been opened and I am beginning to realize that much of the guilt, secretiveness, and poor self image may be the result of misunderstanding what a CD is. This forum appears to have so many enlightened individuals who understand the pain and are willing to help heal.
My wife is not supportive at this point, although she has encouraged me to research the issue. Her main complaint is that I have deceived her for so long. She views any action I take to explore CD would be an affront and embarassement to her. I could use any help you may be able to offer.
Thanks.