I know there have been a lot of other threads on this topic, but I don't think there have ever been any definitive conclusions reached. So here's what I want to know, what is passing?
I have seen many people say that passing is when people can't tell you're really a man. It seems to me like this would mean that there's a lot of people out there who could never truly pass. So I think that maybe passing is more a state of mind than it is dependent on other people. Maybe passing is just going out en femme and not caring if people know you're not really a woman. I like the sound of this definition, because it can be accomplished by all, and also because it provides a more real and personal challenge to us all.
I choose this meaning of the word for myself because I want to reach the point of being without shame or fear of being who I am, and while it might be fun to be a believable woman, that still doesn't strike me as truly being myself. That would be as much a disguise as just being Phil. The fact is that I'm not Phil or Jessica, I am the whole that comes from the two of them. To truly express who I am, I would have to go out into the world knowing that some people would know that I am not really a woman. Pretending to be a woman is one thing, because being a woman is not abnormal. Admitting to the world (and in some cases, yourself) that you are a man in women's clothing is a much harder step to take, and I think, it is also the most important step that any CDer can take. This is passing, in my view. The holy grail that most of us hope to attain one day.
There's my philosophical rant for the day! to all.