Thank you all for your comments! Let me clarify what I am trying to say and what I am not saying:
- It is not a question of whether or not society approves of it or not or if we feel like we are going against society's rules. It is not a question if it is "good" or "bad".
- It is not a question of whether the roots of crossdressing are biological or environmental or both or neither.
- It is not a question of whether or not it is pleasurable.
- It is not a question whether or not it is sexual in nature.
- It is not a question of being normal or not normal.
- I am not saying that it is or might be an addiction for all crossdressers. We each have our own reasons for doing what we do when we do it.
- If it is an addiction, is it truly less destructive than alcohol or a gambling addiction? There are a many divorces and breakups because of it. There are many marriages where it is just tolerated. There have been postings by people on this board who are purging and going away in an attempt to repair their relationships.
The question is: Can I give up crossdressing, walk away from it, give away or throw away everything today, never desire it again, never crossdress again?
I am not saying that one should, or why would someone give up something they enjoy doing. The question is if you can walk away from crossdressing and not look back.
What this comes down to, at least for me, is a question about control. Do I have control over myself? Looking back over my life, I can honestly say that I do not have control over myself. The crossdressing controls me. And if I have no control over myself, how can I give myself totally to another person in a relationship? I don't think I can...
For myself, I am not sure where I am going with all of this... If I think that this is an "addiction" for me, I suppose I have to give up the desire to be in a relationship or at least make it a very low priority in my life. But if I want to start actively dataing again, then I need to figure out a way to regain control of myself. And as the saying goes, "There's no cure for crossdressing..."
--Robyn