Hi together,
I hope everyone had a great weekend, we in Germany have a holiday this Monday.
The following quote inspired me to say something about the way I dress and go out in public with ease without any worries.
This is my last picture threat where the comment by Suzie Peterson was posted:
https://www.crossdressers.com/forums...expected-trips
Quote
Suzie Petersen
'You look fantastic Doreen, as you always do.
I am amazed by your "Just Do It" attitude about this. So many of us are so concerned about everything, and you seem to somehow just have found a way to do your thing without any concern of what other people might think.
You are an inspiration to a lot of people!'
Those of you who've been following my adventures going out in public know most of my threats and pictures.
First of all, I've been going out and experienced the freedom to do so en femme since many years.
My wife knwos about it but won't be involved in any case at all, but she is tolerating.
Occasions:
usually I use my business travel opportunities to be dressed alomst all day when on my way. Sometimes I do trips without any business appointments - just for the sensation of going out, that might be to wear new dresses, skirts or other items. Most of my trips extend over a period of one to tgree days in a row.
I normally don't dress on my appointments, I've made two exceptions in the past years.
Preparations:
One suitcase, a small samsonite, is always filled with a few dresses, skirts, bouses and other tops, shoes, make-up, wigs, breast forms, bras, tights and whatever is needed.
For any trip, I'll go over my packed suitcase and might change the selection of clothes I take with me, it mostly depends on my current mood.
Where to go
I never know ahead of time where I'll be going, it pretty much depends on my business. I might drive a hundred or four hundred miles one way. In rare cases, my trip might also take me to a foreign country, such as the Netherlands, Denmark or the UK.
Before Brexit, I've been to the UK several times within two years, with a time frame of 4-6 days in a row.
While out and dressed, I'll do pretty much what any person would do, except I'm totally dressed as a female. I use any given public transportation, visit stores, malls, bars, clubs, restaurants, galleries and museums - what ever.
Where to dress up
In most cases, dressing at the edge of a larger parking lot, such as supermarkets, malls, parking garages are the best places to dress (for me). I never dress at home prior to leaving the house.
I all cases, I'll try to find a spot where I have visual control over the direct einvironment around me and my car.
Time to get ready
With all the experience I've gained in these years, I've been able to cut the time in half.
That includes full dressing, make-up and hair (wigs).
As of now, I usually need about 30 minutes to be ready to step out.
What to carry when out
In most cases I just carry a regular purse (I own six) OR I carry a leather shopping bag to fit new purchases, such as tops, blouses, dersses or skirts, but there will only be space for two or three of these items.
Whenever I carry that bag, I usually have one more outfit to change clothes while I'm out, it just feels great to be able to change my female appearance, also one spare pair of tights, hair brush etc.
Negative experiences
I feel bleassed and very lucky that I can't report any negative responses or incidents that may occur during my time dressed and in public. People are very kind in any possible interaction.
Mostly, if at all, I receive very nice comments, sometimes women ask me where I got a certain dress, skirts or other items that I wear.
On one occasion, I was waiting for a tram in Amsterdam, wearing a short navy blue floral dress without tights and shorts sleeves, a young woman walked up to me, out of a cafe, and told me how beautiful I was. These reactions are really nice and make the day.
The movies in your head
I'm aware and still remember the thoughts and worries when going out the first times (many times) a long time ago. At that time my appearance was very far from perfect or acceptable from my todays standards.
People are usually concentrated on their own business and don't usually take any notice of you.
Especially where its crowded and in big cities.
It's a little different in smaller cities and less crowded ares, it doen't mean that's bad in any way. It just means you, or a 'sister' dressed up might be noticed more than less.
When I walk around areas with many street cafes, where people enjoy their coffee, meal of drink, they sit there any watch most people who come along that way. We're no exception. People tend to more concentrated on their enviroments in these situations.
What does that mean for me?
Not really much, but my feeling walking past those crowded cafes used to be a little diefferent, because I notive the attention that I'll get there.
I beleive that happens to femine dressed women to the almost same extend.
When you wear a nice and feminine short dress or skirt, people, especially men, tend to stare at you.
In those situatons, they might notice something different and might even think - 'that's a man, that's a trans person and so on.
However that doesn't mean anything, when walking in these areas you just need to be prepared and aware, that people take more notice of you than in other situations.
My clothes collection
I own aproximately 50 dresses, 35 skirts, 20 blouses and tops, 5-7 bras, a lace body, underwear, 20 tights and stockings, 10 blazers, two winter coats and about ten pair of heels and one pair of white sneakers.
I tend to buy my clothes used on a German website (now EU website) called 'vinted'.
About 30-40 % of my colthes are bought new, msotly on sale in stores, always when I'm out & about dressed.
About me
I'm older than most people might believe, I actually look probaly 15 - 20 years younger when dressed and made up.
I'm about 5"10' without heels. With heels, mostly classic elegant pumps, add another 3,5 inches.
my weight is about 165 pounds
My history
I've two University degrees as a designer and artist, one of which is an MFA, received in CA after a two year scholarship.
At the age of 10, I had a terrible accident due to an explosion, that burned my face.
It took me 18 years to recover from it physically and a little longer psychologically.
Since I was 30 years old, I didn't bother anymore when people looked or stared at me due to my scars.
That was actually a good preparation to be able to dress, wear make-up and to look better than as my male self.
When I'm out dressed the responses by people in public might me confused in a way (my perception), As a male, people look or stare at me (whenever that happens) because of my scars.
Wehn out as a female, people might just see the well dressed woman, or they might see a man dressed as a woman.
Hoewever I believe they won't really perceive me as a burn survivor - which I am.
At the age of about 6-7 and at 10 (my accident), I went through two near death experiences.
The first one when I flipped over my air filled dinghy when I couldn't swim yet.
I was drowned and lost consciousness, when a man who had watched me rescued me, my parents didn't notice the incident at all.
The second time was the explosion and fire. I saw myself burning in the fire from above, a very vivid memory....
If you have any questions, just ask.
ONE more note:
I'm totally aware that I'm blessed with an outstanding tolerating wife and two sons.
I'm also aware that circumstances in life are very individual and may vary extremely.
That is also true for physical conditions of each person or CD or trans person.
Btw., I totally identify as male.
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