Trisha,

My divorce was final as of Oct. 1 and to my good fortune my ex was not brave enough to say a word about the fact that I am a cd. I am not sure exactly why considering the fact that she has recently begun to show many signs of rejection to me being a cd. She also took up going to church again and claims that it is a central part of her life. Yet another reason I expected her to bring up my lifestyle.

Personally I don't understand why anyone would want to bring it up but, I realize that a lot of women do just to try to get more from the ex.

It sounds to me like even though you may think that you are giving up ground to her that you don't want to give up, you probably should just so she doesn't try to do something worse and then when all is done, as long as that part is in the custody agreement there is nothing that says that you can't take her back to court to have that changed if you decide you want to in the future.

I know it stinks but just keep in mind that old saying, "What goes around comes around."

I do hope this helps in some way.

huggs
anna