R things like the Femskin, etc., just fetish items?

[DemonicDaughter]

because there's not a DAMN thing wrong with them!

You know, people have all sorts of fetishes. Things that would get me smacked (preferably by Wendy ) were I to mention them here, but we all have heard about them. Hell! Some here have even DONE them though I highly doubt as many would confess to them.

No matter how you look at it, you are presenting yourself as female. One presenting themselves as the opposite gender of their birth makes one a crossdresser.

But you have a fetish too! And in light of many of those fetishes out there... its pretty tame.

So you're different. Be proud of that! Why on earth would you want to be like anyone else?

So what if they make comments? Do you know them? Are they friends, family, loved ones or those who's opinions you live be? Hell no!

Hunnie, some people will ALWAYS find something to complain about. Do you know how many times I've been told how pretty I WOULD be if I "didn't have that thing in [my] lip"? Or if I was thinner, or less aggressive, or... an endless list of things I obviously don't give a shit about as I apparently have yet to change a damn thing about myself. I love who I am. Imperfect, flawed and all. It makes me who I am and I'll be damned if anyone will take that away from me!

[SIZE="4"]SO DON'T YOU LET THEM DO IT TO YOU! That's an order! [/SIZE]

[Majestyk's Lady]

I agree with DD..I have told you before..do what makes You happy..the only one you need to please is You..you have alot of friends here that support your right to be you totally..

What you do and how you precieve yourself belongs to no one but you..there will always be someone that will find something "wrong" in what others do and always as quick to point it out....some of them should look a little closer at themselves..they would be the first to "bristle" if someone else pointed out things somebody else did not like about them..

As long as you have fun and it harms no one..then go for it..it doesn't matter"what it is"...

In my opinion, you try never to be offensive and are sensitive to those who may find this isn't their cup of tea..


You still never cease to amaze me and I still enjoy all your "shenanigans"..

Thank you kindly..please keep posting..

and as DD said..don't let them do it to you..

Please don't let them "scare" you away from your Happiness and expressing how you feel......you are truly unique..


Take care,

Majestyk's Lady

[DianaGomez]

Hi Doc. I think you know my position by now but here goes anyway. I dont think its a fetish any more than CDing may be for most at least. If I could find a passable (in public) female mask, I'd pay just about anything for it, and as to femskin, its HIGH on list of things to buy! Need to pay a couple of things off first. And if there were a totally realistic femskin, with mask etc, Id willingly go into HIGH debt to buy it. Why? Same reason others do the same for SRS etc etc etc. I cannot have SRS or FFS or really even the hormones because the price to pay would have to be too high. (Kids, very well paying job, lifestyle etc.) I would LOVE to be totally female in body but unlike some of you (hats off BTW) there are some prices I wont pay. So if there is an artificial way of looking femme, bring it on!

[Sally2005]

I think its cool! The only issue is the cost and how realistic it looks. It takes a lot of people a while to decide to buy breast forms for the same reason.

[~Seana~]

sweetie if there's one thing I can say I know a few things about, it's fetish. And frankly your wearing femskin doesnt qualify. Fetish tends to involve attraction ( often sexual) to the object itself. You arent in love with the femskin, you're in love with how it makes you feel, which is an important distinction.

I cant fault the femskin , even in realism . I've even looked at them myself, but like many it's out of my range. I wont ever be able to crossdress full time, I have children and will well into retirement ( I have an 11 month old at 40) so for me having the ability to have a realistic skin I can put on...and take off is a huge thing.The realism of femskin dosnt even matter in the end, it's like any other appliance, even prosthetic breasts ( which dont look real either) they arent meant to be full exposure, they are meant to fill in the gaps and hide what clothing doesnt.

All of that said, I have to admit by being a little bit put off by masks in general, not because they dont look realistic, but because it hides your true face....and feelings. It really wouldnt matter if it was a gorilla mask, there's some uneasiness in someone who wont let their expressions be known and we as humans tend to take more from facial. expressions than most think about regularly. So for me when there's a mask I just dont look at that.There's always some illusion and magic to pulling off a descent crossdress, and the mask doesnt fail on the illusion, it fails FOR ME on the lack of emotionand expression that cant be seen with it
Does that mean you shouldnt take mask pictures or even post them? Hells no girl, if it makes you feel good, as so many others have expressed, who are we to judge go do it. Some wont look...so? you arent here to please everyone you're here because you enjoy what you do. In the end that is all that counts.

[docrobbysherry]

when I started this thread. I'm not a very emotional person, but I'm having a hard time typing this. With this moisture in my eyes.

There's is so much honesty and UNDERSTANDING in post after post! I didn't realize---?

I'll come back tomorrow and try again. Goodnite all!

[Amanda Shaft]

Hi Sherry, thanks for posting this thread, you’re brave it could have gone bad! I’m glad it hasn’t and once again the contributors to this forum, this thread, have demonstrated their powers of thought, consideration and understanding.

Here’s my take:

The other day I went out all dressed and looking fab! Thing was I forgot my camera so the next day I ‘recreated’ my look especially so that I could take a few snaps, a little vain perhaps but hey ho. The thing is what’s the difference between my studio shots and yours?

I guess when I’ve read your posts in the past this is where I’ve placed you: in the Cding as an art form bracket, like you’re a photographic study. You dress as you dress because of your reasons and share the results with us through your great photographs. I like to go out dancing etc. which means my dressing has to be as passable as possible, I don’t think you could go out in your mask and not be challenged but to create a look for yourself and for the camera then it works and we all enjoy seeing the results. Okay perhaps not ‘all’ but most of us can appreciate your look for what it is: yours; to enjoy and relish.

Have fun with it,
Amanda

[KandisTX]

You dress as you dress because of your reasons and share the results with us through your great photographs.

You hit that nail right square on the head with this statement right here Amanda.

Kandis

[docrobbysherry]

I posted this thread expecting to listen to other's intolerance of me. Instead, I have ended up having to face and deal with, my own intolerance!

Instead of reading critical posts here, I'm seeing the opposite! It caught me completely off guard, and has caused me some soul searching! Your open honesty and understanding, even ACCEPTANCE, struck a nerve in me.

I have been developing my female persona, and my dressing techniques, for about 10 years. Until late last year, all my CDing has been done ENTIRELY on my own. Trial and error. Then, try again. With no input or advice from anyone! That means I read nothing that had to do with CDs, except for one mail order catalogue. And I did NO internet exploration either!


Until last fall. When I looked up "CDs", on the web. I had no idea that many, maybe most CDs, dress because they have a female side they wish to express.

I have always thot that I dress to look and feel like a COMPLETELY different person! An attractive young woman, in particular. And I thot ALL CDs must dress for that same reason. It never occurred to me that I mite have a female side!

My dressing techniques, that includes my masks, came about because of my dislike at seeing any part of Robert in my mirror and pics. And I had become equally intolerant of the "man in a dress" look.
For those of u that find my masks disturbing; I find my appearance dressed WITHOUT a mask, at least if not MORE, disturbing than u do with one! In the last 3+years, I haven't dressed without a mask! If my mask and wig aren't on, I avoid looking in a mirror.


I honestly used to wonder why any man would choose to look like a "homely" woman? Homely women r not highly valued in our society. While homely men r considered quite acceptable. I now understand, and appreciate why CDs do that. It's to appear as who they feel they really r.

And now I must look deep inside. Past my intolerance of myself as a man and as a CD. To find out why I have this strong need to express myself this way. It MAY just be a fetish driven desire, as I have always thot. Or it may be something more. Some part of me that I have been afraid to face.

What am I hiding from all of u, and myself? I really don't know.

[jaina]

The off-the-shelf items themself DO look fake now, but seeing the advances in breastforms over the past two decades, one can only imagine how they will improve with mass production. individual professional latex apliances fool people even up close. So time will tell what advances and direction these products will take in the future.

[AmandaM]

<And now I must look deep inside. Past my intolerance of myself as a man and as a CD. To find out why I have this strong need to express myself this way. It MAY just be a fetish driven desire, as I have always thot. Or it may be something more. Some part of me that I have been afraid to face.>>

You can do it without the mask, etc. There are plenty of CDers who will never pass. If the point of it is to express the inner female, your masks are a facade. None of us will ever be perfect women. Tell you what. Get dressed without the latex, post a pix, and let us judge. I'm sure you'll look fine!

[DemonicDaughter]

People wear pantyhose to hide their legs because they aren't quite perfect. They where makeup to hide lines, blemishes, etc. They wear corsets, girdles and so on to correct their figures. Artificial nails to cover their own or nail polish to do the same. Everyone here is wearing a "mask" of sorts. Whether its showing who they perceive themselves to be on the inside or whether its trying to hide the appearance they were born with. Either way, there is so much clothing, makeup, etc that goes into not only dressing as a CD but just in general. What makes what you do any worse? Nothing. Passable or not, its changing how you look to an image you at least like if not love. Everyone on this planet does that! From surgery to hair color to heels to whatever.

[AmandaM]

People wear pantyhose to hide their legs because they aren't quite perfect. They where makeup to hide lines, blemishes, etc. They wear corsets, girdles and so on to correct their figures. Artificial nails to cover their own or nail polish to do the same. Everyone here is wearing a "mask" of sorts. Whether its showing who they perceive themselves to be on the inside or whether its trying to hide the appearance they were born with. Either way, there is so much clothing, makeup, etc that goes into not only dressing as a CD but just in general. What makes what you do any worse? Nothing. Passable or not, its changing how you look to an image you at least like if not love. Everyone on this planet does that! From surgery to hair color to heels to whatever.

Well sure, but the good Doc mentioned that maybe she's not really in touch with her female side. So, I says, explore it!

[Sally147]

I think you look great. Maybe your girl is a teensy bit naughty herself. Tut!! What a besom! I used to love being blindfolded myself, that seeing without being seen thing, or the other way round. And there's a power in anonymity too, and escape from opression, and seductive vulnerability. I think in a way, it's a hunt for romance, but without so much risk. You've been hurt in the past.....Anyway, I'm a newbie, and I am SO getting off on my new 36b teardrops, I just wanted to have my girly say. Big kiss, take care. X
Sally 147

[crusadergirl]

Sherry i'm cool with the femskin look it makes you stand out. I like anything thats different.
Your a cd for sure just alittle different then most. Your the first i have seen doing the femskin thing. Just b/c i won't do it don't mean, theres anything wrong with it.
I enjoy all your pics mostly b/c no one else does them like you.

[CharleneCD]

I posted this thread expecting to listen to other's intolerance of me. Instead, I have ended up having to face and deal with, my own intolerance!

Instead of reading critical posts here, I'm seeing the opposite! It caught me completely off guard, and has caused me some soul searching! Your open honesty and understanding, even ACCEPTANCE, struck a nerve in me.

.

Sherry, I think the problem is you have been asking what people think about the masks and femskin. Its not that we are intolerant, its more that it is not something for us. Personaly I must agree with what I read in another thread that they are a bit creepy. But as I said, if it is what gives you your feminine feeling, then it is what you should use.

As for your question about what you are hiding, I think it is more like what doesnt fit your vision. I would guess you have a very strong feminine side, and any masculine features destroys the female image you have of yourself. So for you the mask ensures there is nothing to hurt your inner image.

[tammysuetv]

I agree you should do what makes you happy. It does not wierd me out. I welcome any and all of our sisters out there. I even looked at one of the websites selling the latex. I am considering the chest piece one..though $400 is pretty steep.

[Toni_Lynn]

Hey -- I think its okie-dokie. Enjoy!

I don't know if I'd want a femskin, BUT -- It would be cool to try one just once to explore the 'what if'.

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[VirginiaX23]

I love the idea behind the femskin (although I'm somewhat indifferent to the mask...I have a thing about wearing masks, it's hard for me to breathe). I it weren't for the somewhat steep cost of the thing, I would love to try one on. I don't see it as a fetish item (unless you're wearing a PVL catsuit over it!). I see it as just another bit of foundation one can apply to increase the illusion. The fetish question is ultimately a personal one, though. I don't think you think it's a fetish, so who cares what other people think?

[Elizabeth2-]

Love yourself.