I'm never apart from the feminine within me, but there are days when it's quiet, and days when it's crying to get out. I imagine it's that way with everyone, male or female. It's just that as a guy, my dynamic for expressing it is different than it is for women.
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I thought about this throughout today, and my answer has to be that I just feel like me. I guess I'm pretty much the same when dressed as a boy or dressed as a girl.
One thing is for sure, (here she goes with that society word). I never feel what society deems to be masculine. My masculinity is better defined by my steadfast caring for the ones that I love, especially my wife, and my willingness to defend her with my life. Therein is what I consider masculine.
But that softness, that nurturing, the attributes that one associates with femininity, is always there.
Both work together in a synergy strengthening each other.
Huggles
Toni-Lynn
--I'm TN (transnationalist) - a Canadian born in an American's body! I stand on guard for thee!
I'm masculine even when I'm dressed, though much less. My wife wouldn't even talk to me if I acted feminine.
Sometimes I find my fem side coming out when in male mode.
The other day the office lady was talking to about some clothes she had seen on the net and I was like yes I saw this cool top without really thinking
and she was like what are you doing looking at that I just tryed playing It like I was joking haha but is just came out so naturally.
So sometimes I do feel the fem come out when in male mode
I gess that’s just two small parts of me that make up the whole
I denitely feel femme 100% of the time, no matter what I wear. But my femme feelings really come out when I slip on a dress, skirt and blouse or anything girly. Makes me wish I were with a man.
Gender is expressed in both thoughts and behavior. We are feminine when we think in a feminine manner or when we do feminine things. There is no single simple way to express gender.
I,d have to say a big NO to that question. I really don't feel feminine wearing mens clothes, especially underpants & socks, YUK. The desire to be feminine is always there though, no matter how I'm dressed, but I don't really feel feminine until I,ve had a bath or shower & washed all those horrible male odours away, then put on some nice spray & underwear & start getting dressed. That's when my femme side comes out.
I'm just going to say that I'm a blend of both. Nether masculine nor feminine. I'm finaly a peace with who I am.
It's a heart and mind thing Bev. For sure. That's why it caused me and my SO such horrendous issues in all aspects of life until such a time as I accepted it as a heart and mind thing and discussed it with my SO. My SO is of the same opinion, which is just fantastic.
Sarah...
I think it is not the dresses that makes us feel as women, no wearing the dresses only is a translation of these feelings , Yet it is a cry that we need to express our feminine personality to the world ....to add to this is when we shave our bodies or put make up or other means women do ....
Actually Sarah what you say there is very interesting. I have talked with a few of my GG friends in the past over acceptance etc and one of the things that most of them seem to have struggled with at times is the fact that their fella can't accept his CDing himself. Must be a new thread in there somewhere. When someone is struggling with an identity crisis they can be hell to live with, and the main issue was that their CD didn't like himself or what he liked doing, and as a consequence made life very difficult for everyone else.Originally Posted by Sarah...
Take care
Bev
this is a realy good thread well i think im mainly fem. but at work I have to act like a man I survive by wereing a nice bra and pantie set and putting gliter on my nails lol no one has said anyting about the gliter
Abso-blooming-lutely?
Ask yourselves how you feel posting on here and if it makes a difference what you wear while you do it?
And nice to see you, Bev..
Nicki
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Thanks Nicki,Abso-blooming-lutely?
Ask yourselves how you feel posting on here and if it makes a difference what you wear while you do it?
And nice to see you, Bev..
And ditto. Hope you enjoyed Sparkle this year, I missed being there with you all
Bev
Bev, it's so sad when someone can't accept themselves. All the purging and crying that I have seen friends do......
I never had problems with accepting myself, as I had long ago came to the conclusion that faults are allowed, people are flawed, so I accept things in myself which gives me great tolerance for faults in others.
CD'ing, being gay, being different aren't faults, however, they are merely the things that make someone interestingly different than the bland mass of humanity that spends all of its energy trying to fit in. Fit in with what? Some artificial construct of what a person should be that no one actually is?
The first thing said about a person is the general announcement "It's a ____" assigning that person a gender and with that, a gender identity. You then spend your life trying to fulfil that silly destiny. I'd rather hear "It's a healthy baby!"
K
Well said Katheryn
We are only here once so we have to make the most of it. Spending time pleasing others and trying to fit in, to be honest seems absolutley futile to me. Theres always going to be another group you try to fit in with and your going to end up wasting an awful lot of you time in the process. I would hate to look back on my life and think why didnt I do something just because it wasnt considered to be the norm.
Bev
Dressing is just one tool or way of expressing my femininity. The root of that expression comes from within and is with me all the time. 'That's a good thing'
Your question was very genuine Bev.
I feel totally femme all the time, and when I am working i have to concentrate of putting forth a Male presence, .
I have for years felt that I am female inside and that I was born of the wrong gender. Living out in the country and in an area where there are too many narrow minded people, it did not allow me to express my true feelings. to over come that some what, I did join a group that wore Kilts, and for a while that seemed to serve my needs to wear a skirt. My sister used to tease me about being like a girl sweeping my skirt under me, Maybee she knew more than I did at the time.
I am so happy to see GG's such as your self take an active part in the discussions here, for me it brings a lot of Insight and good thoughts to the room
Denise
All the time, I often visit this site in drab, but I still feel very fem
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For me, it's not the clothes any more...like most, it was many, many years ago, but these days the clothes are just a way to heighten a feeling that's with me 24/7.
The feeling isn't necessarily of being femme, though. It's a feeling of not being either a man or a woman, but a human being. Dressed in man clothes usually makes me adopt the physical presence of manhood (though I often have to consciously remind myself not to cross my legs like that, or to walk a little more exagerrated butch, or to stop calling every woman I talk to "honey" if I don't know her name.)
I don't think I think like a man or a woman at any given time (though I do knowingly vocalize like a man with mannish comments and mannish jokes when I'm with the guys. But the guys also know me for someone who does not put up with discriminatory talk of any kind in any way!).
So thinking "feminine" is not the goal. Who can say what thinking feminine is?
Does not Venus Williams think in terms of demolishing competition? Don't tell me she's not feminine! She's big enough and beautiful enough to be 200% feminine, in my mind! Gloria Steinem and Betty Friedan, terrors of the mid seventies male, not feminine?
Does not Johnny Depp obviously empathize and sympathize so strongly with the broken and strange characters that he sometimes plays? He's skinny and strange, but still exudes the kind of masculinity that most women say they want in a partner. Don't tell me he's not masculine enough!
It's a connection with everyone, every type of person, that should be our goal. And if that means crying sometimes, or getting righteously aggro at other times, that's okay.
Adopt the best of both genders. Slough off the worst of both genders. Be a human first!
If dressing in opposite gender clothes helps you do that, then you're on your way!
That's how it works for me these days.
I like to channel my feminine persona when i can. I think it makes me a better person. But there is no doubt that Ican feel a lot more feminine if you are all dolled up.
i always do mostly when i go shopping.
Funny you should say that Crystal. My partner and I often go shopping together and whatever we are buying we always have (at his request) to walk through Binns the department store. If we take the short cut through we pass through the perfume and makeup dept and he loves the smell. I am sure they will soon start getting suspicious because its always him that stops to look at something or smell something.
He says that even dressed as a male he feels very girly when walking through that store.
Bev
Hello Bev.
Speaking purely for myself, of course I always feel feminine even when in my male disguise, although I do wear fillies under my male clothes. Its important at all times to not only feel fem, but to be fem.
Good luck in your survey: Mlady Stefanny
For me, wearing pretty femme clothes from inside out complete the image and persona of who I wish to be when dressed... a woman. The clothes do not make me feminine, that comes from within, but the pretty clothes accentuate my feelings of femininity and softness. It's an additive feeling!
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