"...comfortably cutting them out of the picture..."
".....unbelievable freedom to dress......"
"....long before I met you, she was there...."
These are quotes from a CD.com post, an unassociated journal I read from a CD about his journey out of the closet/divorce & the third from another CD's writings. I think none indicate any remorse or regret or even concern for the wife or her feelings. IMO, they show a tendency to treat "the woman within" as the ultimate goddess and the real, breathing wife as an appendage to be removed as if it offends "her". At the very least, the wife appears to be just an incidental casualty.
Is it that easy to choose unconditional, totally at your discretion and control CDing over your life partner? For those who have split because of CDing, how soon after you were married did you realize CDing was more important than your marriage?
For those who have chosen to stay and compromise or communicate or empathize or whatever the difference was that made it work, is there resentment at the restrictions a "not fully out" lifestyle dictates?
Please treat this as an academic query - I am not trying to enflame or insult anyone, but I have just seen alot of print lately that seems to treat the unaccepting or "marginally accepting" wife as disposable. Is the choice really that easy?