Mellisa
Its a terrible thing that is happening to you after 25 years of commitment. Especialy over something she has never seen. I am thinking along the lines of the advice Roberta gave. Maybe its time you showed her Mellisa. Maybe she needs to come face to face with what she fears. I dont think many GG's have a clue about what it is realy about. They see a movie with a drag queen and that gives them their whole perception. Maybe by seeing you at your best might make her realize that it is not sucha big deal. Then again maybe not. Either way what do you have to lose. If it gives even a little bit of a chance for saving things, it is worth thinking about.