I 100% agree with everything Kathy said. Now is not the time for you to be selfish, but instead be concerned for your marriage. Most wives know that husbands become pretty self absorbed with this, especially when they have been hiding it for so long and then it comes out in the open and there are suddenly limits placed on what you can and can't do. You can't expect a miracle in 10 days. I've known for 3 years and I still struggle A LOT. You have a long road ahead of you, but the fact that in just 10 days she is trying says something about her. Run with that and God grant HER patience.