Weekly, if not daily, these topics appear on this forum. These are subjects that spawn unhappiness. As children at a very young age, we learn to make things fit. Take for instance, the toy that teaches to put the square peg in the square hole, the round peg in the round hole, the triangle peg in the triangle whole and so on. As adults, we then believe that everyone should
fit in the approiate hole just like the pegs and we pick the hole they should fit in. We do this, not only catigorizing individuals but also religions, races and
genders. We nearly wiped out the American Indian, the jewish religion (still in progress) and put women to death because we believed them to be witches.
Throughout human existance, there have alway been not so shinning examples of man's inhumanity to man. Most things we have little power to stop but when it comes to our own lives, we have all the power. The truth is that nobody precisely fits. Transvestism is a personification of how different
everyone in this world really is. The fear, guilt, denial and desire to purge all come from believing somehow that geneticly we should fit but can't completely. But within our TG community, there so many differences, in fact, as many as there are people. I believe that instead of trying to fit, it is important to recognize that we are not all the same. Then we can begin to
carve the shape that allows us to fit. This holds true for every human on this planet. Personal happiness comes as result of recognizing the shape we were ment to be and molding a likeness without impacting negitively upon others.
Recognition involves a personal assessment of one's interests, talents, limitations and vision. Purging to fit never really fits unless you weren't ment
to be a CD in the first place and denial, fear and guilt come from believing
everyone fits. The world will alway be at odds until the hole is big enough
to allow every human being to fit!
Bravo!
