Count me as another CD who's feathers are ruffled.Originally Posted by julie w
Or would you be happy with them telling you to get buffed out at the gym, get a high-paying job, and dress like a man?
Count me as another CD who's feathers are ruffled.
Or would you be happy with them telling you to get buffed out at the gym, get a high-paying job, and dress like a man?
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[QUOTE=kittypw GG;548136]Skirts equal less freedom for women. You have to watch how you sit. You can't just bend over, you have to wear the right shoes, your legs need to be shaved.
We fought for the right to wear pants and have freedom of choice for ourselves independant of men.
as cd's, many of us yearn for the freedom of dress that would allow us the freedom to enjoy those restrictions when we wish without the social consequences...as they are part of our desire to dress in the manner we prefer,which includes skirts and dresses, and all the restrictions and limitations those items entail,while we love the movement of loose skirts and the tightness of form fitting ones, the feeling of smooth legs pressed together as we sit or bend, etc. As Women, You have won your right to dress as you wish...unfortunately, we are still fighting that fight!
Funny world, isn't it?
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Ashly,
Crazy indeed. The fight was a long one and we had to burn our brasBut just imagine a CD trying to through her bra in the fire
Do I imagine white knuckles klinging on to the strap at the edge of the fire? Unless of course she was purging but the white knuckles would still apply but add tears. Lots and lots of tears.
I wish that men expressing themselves through feminine clothing was a commonly accepted thing. My life would be easier, I could let go of all of thoes fears of anyone finding out. But it will be a long battle. One being fought little by little by brave people like Melanie and Peggy R. who are willing to risk exposure to educate the public that there are educated everyday people who are genetically male who dress and present as women and who are not just transexual. I think that has been my biggest enlightenment after meeting my hubby. That there are not just men and women but every color under that rainbow and every variation.
Take careKitty
Is there any such thing as a nice guy? A normal hetro, non CD/TG guy? I couldn't put more than a small handful of my male aquantences and friends into that catagory. Most of them are attracted to the hot, thin girls with cute hair styles, short or long. It's a sex attraction thing, they have to go home to their frumpy wives every day and deal with the lack of sex and attention. Very disfunctional. Of course, they have a lot to do with the problem, preferring their beer drinking buddys, their football games and their toys to spending quality time with their spouse and kids.
You could say that I don't really like "normal" men.
Mandy,beautiful Mandy,I agree let us be.
How does that help you meet a "nice guy"?
I agree that it would attract more attention.. mostly from those that you won't want to share your life with.. but being a barbie doll .. does not mean you will meet your ken.
I think a girl should meet her nice guy in a friend atmostphere not a meat market. And that they should enjoy eachother's company not just want some sort of trophy. And I think this works both ways. A guy who wants to meet a nice girl shouldn't put on a superficial facade to attract the attention of some airhead shallow woman. He should be comfortable with himself and present who he honestly is to attract a woman who's gonna love the real him. Not the pretend him.
Given your idea.. why not add "get breast implants" & "win the lottery"?
I'm not ruffled tho. Just think that your advice to the g/f's friends is not extremely helpful.
Love & Hugs
~Kitty
I want to to thank you all for your insight. The hardest part of being a CD has been not having people who understand what you're going through to talk with and gain perspective. Your posts are great, especially those from the GG's with first hand knowledge.
My wife told me she wants me to be comfortable with who I am and dress as I need to. She wants me to be happy first and foremost. I love her so much..and told her so...and apologized for being distant and explained to her why. She confirmed again, but gently, that my dressing does influence her style choices. I told her she can dress anyway she would like.
By the way, She has received rave reviews from her co-workers about her new outfits and it gave her a tremendous confidence boost. She didn't wear the new skirt this week because the new matching shoes were causing a blister. BUT,she wants to wear it at other events (her decision, no pressure).
Thank you all,
Colleen
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Feeling pretty on the inside.
Dear, just be sure and re-assert to her your attraction to *her* and not just her wardrobe. I think that will mend a lot of bridges for you*hugs*
Coleen:
It is hard for us GGs to understand and accept our husband's crossdressing. We (or at least I) feel confused and uncertain about our future and I mean "our" in terms of the couple.
But it is great we can discuss it and know others points of view from both sides.
Veronica
Trying to learn how to accept my husband's crossdressing.
Okay, I have to chime in on this one. First, I think a lot of my extreme comfort level with CD and any other form of non-traditional sexual or gender orientation is that I myself am a bit androgynous. I have days where all I want to wear are my BDUs and tactical boots, and some days I like to dress like Stevie Nicks. I don't do stockings or colored nail polish, and only wear makeup to hide icky spotsClaire on the other hand, lives for her stockings! I do like my hair kinda long, but probably only because it's really curly and when it's short I look like a french poodle.
So, I gladly accept Claire as part of my life, love her to death actually, but I would never tell my spouse what mode to be in at any given time. I get the same in return. If I dress like a boy and go outside to play and get dirty, I get no grief at all. If I dress like a girl, I might get a wink and a "Oh you're a girl!" joke (lovingly of course) but my spouse accepts me as I am.
I understand your desire to share your thrill at wearing skirts. You love her and you want to share something you think is really cool. But I have to say, just let her be her, and she'll be more likely to let you be you.
Namasté!
Or would you be happy with them telling you to get buffed out at the gym, get a high-paying job, and dress like a man?
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thats me except I dress like a man some of the time , lol ,lets not take things to seriously we are sopposed to be having fun , I get teased enough
by my gf ,and I only say it in fun
Colleen, some women don't want to wear a particular item because THEY feel they don't look good in it, that it doesn't flatter them. I had a similar situation with a girlfriend who would wear what I wanted in the bedroom and even try different things on her own, but let me suggest how I wanted her to dress outside of the bedroom and...wow...MT. Vesuvius. She was really comfortable with her body when it was only me looking, but VERY uncomfortable when everybody else was looking. I should have picked up on it before and, because she had been tentative in bed and we had made love the first time in the dark, but I overlooked those clues.
Another thing to consider is that if the guy looks better in the outfit than she does, if she doesn't feel good about herself and how she looks, she is now not as good-looking as a GUY in women's clothing. If she has low self-esteem to begin with, how do you think that little fact is going to make her feel? I had an acquauntance who dressed and came out to his wife, and she was upset at first but got over it, and they were happy for about 2 years. But he wan't satisfied with that and pushed for her to be with him while he went out en femme. He was much prettier than she was, and attracted a lot more attention, and he revelled in it. But he forgot about her and her feelings. The marriage dissolved within eight months.
THink about her and her feelings.
Debitv
I don't see the contradiction.
Men ask their wives to dress in a more feminine manner because that is what men are predominantly attracted to.
Women ask their husbands to respect their feelings and not engage in a level of CDing that is threatening to them, because understanding and caring about their feelings is what women are predominantly attracted to.
One that does not respect the other's wishes enough to at least attempt to carry them out, or simply resents the other's wishes, is not contributing towards the two way street that is necessary for a healthy relationship.
My wife and I never discuss how either of us dress,she never compliments me,and she dresses like a slob,no I never tell her that.
Kittypw, I hate to tell you this, but women got the right to wear pants before we were born. Or at least me. During WWII women were replacing men in the faxctories. There it was Rosey the Riviter taking up the war effort. That's when women got to start to wear pants. My first wife had jeans and shorts with a side zipper, now womens jeans have a front zipper.She also had a pair of jeans with a back zipper.About 1972 or 73, there was a movement to get girls in guys jeans. They had conversion charts on every rack of mens jeans, to convert to womens sizes. And the Calvan Klien jeans came out about them....BJ
A lot of the girls I've known to complain about not being able to meet a nice guy were just too busy sleeping around with all of the jerks and sleezebags to really find time and look for one. I'm still searching for a polite way to inform them of this.
society sees absolutely nothing wrong with women wearing mens clothes,but when a man wears womens clothes,he is a sick pervert who needs serious psychiatric help.I was told that by a Mormon bishop.
Well Snookums, most fundamental religous people believe that because some idiot told them that the bible says that, which, by the way, it does not. Jesus's favorite deciple was an effeminite young man, that is how he is described in the gospels and depicted in the famous medieval paintings.
Amber,there is another answer for that statement, Jesus's wife could have been Mary Magdalene or some other GG. Where in the Gospels I can find such an indication ? Please, state,thanks Jackie Ann
[SIZE="2"]I love to feel feminine[/SIZE]
And MY posts get deleted.
Sheesh!
Anyway...as many annoying teachers used to scrawl on my work...RTQ.......Read the question! Or rather....find the salient points.
"She reminded me that all day I kept asking her why she didn't like to wear skirts. She told me it was because of the fem clothes I wear."
Last edited by Julie York; 09-19-2006 at 05:09 PM.
My wife likes wearing jean's I do not. Let her wear what she likes to wear and take one day as it comes.
Love as always Jasminexxxxxxxx
[QUOTE=ColleenCD;549859
My wife told me she wants me to be comfortable with who I am and dress as I need to. She wants me to be happy first and foremost. I love her so much..and told her so...and apologized for being distant and explained to her why. She confirmed again, but gently, that my dressing does influence her style choices. I told her she can dress anyway she would like.
I am so glad to see the above......and glad you said she can dress any way she wants........tell her back you want her to be comfortable with who she is as well.Let her be...how ever she wants to be.
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Let me see if I have this right. You want her to dress (more feminine)which is the way you want , but she is supposed to accept your CDing and not comment.
How many women got married and tried to change their man and the marrage failed. Your wife has made her personal preferences known, you should respect them.
Cassy
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