Hi Jean,
Not knowing your hubby,, and most importantly Im no expert at ANYTHING,,but I can tell you what came to mind first when reading your post.This is just how I can be sometimes and may not even be close to your situation. My wife and I comunicate pretty well about most issues after 23 years, but some times she will take things I say totaly wrong,even if its not a serious subject. So what I do once I see that kind of reaction is to hesitate about what I say before I say it, trying to phrase my words so she gets my meening. If that doesnt work and she has her mind made up that she knows what Im trying to say. I end the discussion before it turns into a plain argument. I will admit to being very stubborn at times,, maybe its my German herritage ? But often we re open the subject with totaly different results.
I guess my point is when I get frustrated or cant find the words to continue without making matters worse, I just clam up,,, the stubborn thing whatever,this gives me time to think of how to make my point and it gives my wife time to try and get what Im trying to say.
Confused now ?
well Im trying to remember the last time we went through this and how long it took for us to finish the conversation in a dialogue we both understood. I guess as long as it can work out a little time is a good investment.
Wow I never get this serious in a post,, so hope its just not babbeling on my part.
Good luck to you both
Cindy