What to do?
My girlfriend (as some would know from my introduction post) suffers from some sort of depression by her own admission but she won't go to a doctor or any such. Well things have been getting progressively worse between us and my confession more than 18months ago that the desire to dress had occassionaly been returning (I made sure she knew I'd done it in the past from very early on) is one of the big issues. Today she says that if I were to ever do it again the relationship would end, if the relationship were to end she will kill herself.
Now I've been on a psychotherapy waiting list for some time, mostly to see them about anxiety/panic attacks I've been having but intending to also see them about a whole range of issues and today I found out I'll only have 1 to 2 weeks more to wait.
There is no way to reason with her, nothing I say makes any difference to her. To make matters worse as I am disabled (Myalgic Encephalomyalitus aka Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) I am substantially reliant on her. I tried suggesting to her she spend some time with friends/family till we can better deal with some of the issues we have and she says that if she were to leave she probably wouldn't come back and if that happened... she'd kill herself.
Even if I thought I could give up dressing and somehow get rid of the desire to dress I'm certain something else would come up as there were other problems before any of the current ones came up, it seems cyclical.
I have called her best friend and hopefully she and my girlfriends sister can do something because I can't think of anything else.