Much of what has been posted here, I agree with. Nice one, Tamara. I'm on board. And Julie York has also summed it up well. I used to be quite obsessive about my dressing. So much so, I used to dress at the expense of meeting friends, and I'd sometimes forgo family gatherings just to take advantage of the alone time. I still like my alone time, but I'm at a point now where it matters less to me. I seldom go out of my way to make time to dress up, as I am happy with what time comes my way instead. Sometimes an opportunity slips by, and I feel a little frustration or regret, but it passes.
I think this tendency that some of us have, to make time to dress at the expense of time with others is somewhat what Tammy Marie GG is getting at. But I think many people are a little obsessive about their pursuits and interests, and many people behave this way. So I doubt that our crowd here is more selfish than any other group. See? We're just normal.