hope not to offend but am confused about some of the way people dress for photos!

[uknowhoo]

The reason you don't see that kind of unsavory pics around here is because Sherlyn and the rest of the staff are doing their (volunteer) jobs very well. We have specific rules laid out for this forum, and they are uniformly enforced, resulting in the kind of site to which a CD could invite her So or family. That's our goal, and I think we do a very good job as a community.

Of course, there is a myriad of other sites where one could find that sort of thing, if so inclined. Personally, that's not my thing. At the same time, I'm not gonna throw any stones at "those perverts."

It's nice to be among "nice girls."

xoxo

Tammi

[chantelle]

The thing about pics are that they tell a thousand words and if others were to pose in those types that look ****ty then I would say that they shoudl go find themselves a place away from here

I will not say much further. Just be sure that u advertise who u are through the pics u take of yourself.
Love
chantelle.

[Lilith Moon]

I can't believe this ! :mad:

Here we are, a minority group that is despised and prejudged by many bigots...actually pouring scorn on another minority group. Who are we to judge people ? Or is it the old story of repressed groups looking out for someone to feel superior to?

I've already said that porno shots don't appeal to me personally, but I have no problems at all with those who get pleasure from posting, or looking at such pictures. Similarly, I would hope that those who have no interest in crossdressing would not condemm me for my particular activities.

[Cheery GG]

I have not seen any photos of this sort hear but other web sites i have been to esp. places like myspace and yahoo. Why do some transgendered peoples and crossdressers feel a need to pose photos of themself in very revealing clothing while in very sexual postures, something like bent over ready to be taken from behind and other such poses. I dont mean in a beautiful nightgown ot neglige (cant spell the word i want) I understand the wanting to feel sexy and stuff but their are much more beautiful and tasteful ways to show how sexy we can be isn't their? Maybe its just me but dosen't this make us look bad. In many ways this form of behavier confuses me. Then again in my honestnes I feel the same way abot g-women in poses like this. Maybe i'm just strang in my feelings? who knows.

You sure your not a gg.....only we say this sort of stuff !

cheery
xx

[Shelly Preston]

Some may post pictures of a provacative nature
It may not be to everyones taste but as long as it is not obscene,
and complies with the rules.
It is surely up to the indvidual to decide which pics they want to post.

[Rexy Lee]

Its been already said by others here, but crossdressing spans the spectrum from wearing panthose on occasion to dressing like a drag queen, and sexually from 100% straight to flaming gay and everything and I mean everything in between.
What could it possibly mean to you how others express this fetish?

Of the cd rooms/forums on the net, this is one of the most conservative, (and thats ok) however we all need to allow eachother some room here and not be judgemental.

I for one lean toward whats known as "fetish transvestite" if you need to put a label on. I dress sexy and I am very bi when dressed (and only when dressed-go figure?) Those that like to put on a housecoat and slippers and no make-up do not apppeal to me in anyway, however they are certainly entitled to be and act just as they wish.

Its tough enough being unfavorably viewed by the rest of the world but to get chastised by our own people? Its a shame.

[FionaAlexis]

Firstly I not sure why there was an upsurge of ‘not on this site’ posts as no-one was advocating any change to the current policy?? It was about why some TG/CDs dress and pose provocatively…or in sexually explicit poses.

If the question had been asked properly and there had a fewer knee jerk ‘not me’ responses – we could have had an interesting discussion. And maybe more of the ‘naughty’ girls would have given their views.

Anyway….I must get back to tvChix. I’m reviewing the profiles there for research purposes only. Oh! this young lady admirer on the top right of the home page must be gynecologist….

Fiona xx

[sierracd6]

I agree with all of Shortskirts views. Just because someone wants to feel sexy and adventuouse, does not give any of us room to talk...we are doing it in different ways and for different reasons. I myself will take photos like described, but would never post them here for this is not that type of forum, and I know and agree with that. But I should also not be judged on how I may feel on a certain day of photo opps either....nor will I judge anyone else if they want to show a little backside, I will not call them a ****, or if they don't, I will not call them a prude. We all have our opinions

[Bernice]

Kudos to Rexy Lee for advocating tolerance. I also share FionaAlexis' dissappointment in the lack of views expressed by ‘naughty’ girls.

I think that how we photograph ourselves is a reflection of why we dress as we do. Those who dress for arousal will dress more provocatively (or will try to anyway), and are likely to post pictures of themselves dressed that same way.

When I was 19, I would have posted similar photographs, if the Internet and digital photography had existed way back then.

I'm not 19 anymore. Dressing no longer results in arousal. For me, dressing is for other reasons that are much harder to describe. Thus, I am most likely to post pictures of a fully dressed person, whose hemline is within a couple inches of her knees, perhaps sitting or standing, but definitly not about to engage in coitus or other participative pornographic behavior.

At this point in my life, my subconcious motivation to dress as I do probably has a lot more to do with wanting to be like a lady and not to promote sexual activity of any kind.

I am here on this forum because it is much more conservative (and friendly) than other forums. I am dissappointed by avatars that show no face, and I do probably leap to misleading conclusions about those who post avatars with shockingly short microskirts. But I realize that that is MY prejudice, and it is MY responsibily to to overcome such negative feelings. That is what acceptance of diversity is all about.

[Kristen Kelly]

OK, everybody so far has been either disapproving or none-judgemental. I also happen to find "**** shots" and "take-me" shots unappetising whether the subject is gm or gg. FWIW, I tried taking a few of myself as an experiment and I hated the results

It would be interesting, however, to see a comment from the other side...is there anybody here who likes to pose like that? Or who likes to view such pictures ?

I used to look at TG sites, there is nothing wrong with that, the couriousity with what others look like was there, the problem comes when you subistute self satifaction for contact with real people. What ever rocks your boat.

In my younger days I lived with an Exotic dancer and took her to work and sometimes hung out with the girls. Experenced my first contacts with a pre-op and post opTS they were both dancers, it sparked my interest. We hung out with a pretty wild crowd. My GF took me out dressed for the first time to a drag night. I have been on the set of a porn movie while it was being shot it was more mechanical than erotic. Of the contact I've had with these people most had serious drug, alcohol, or problems with low self asteem.

Ive got it out of my system its no life to live. Ive seen porn up close and its not pretty.

The human body is a beautiful thing we are always trying to mold it, why cant we admire it.

[Teresa Amina]

I have not seen any photos of this sort hear but other web sites i have been to esp. places like myspace and yahoo. Why do some transgendered peoples and crossdressers feel a need to pose photos of themself in very revealing clothing while in very sexual postures, something like bent over ready to be taken from behind and other such poses. I dont mean in a beautiful nightgown ot neglige (cant spell the word i want) I understand the wanting to feel sexy and stuff but their are much more beautiful and tasteful ways to show how sexy we can be isn't their? Maybe its just me but dosen't this make us look bad. In many ways this form of behavier confuses me. Then again in my honestnes I feel the same way abot g-women in poses like this. Maybe i'm just strang in my feelings? who knows.

I agree with you Charlaine, that's why this is the only cd/tg site I visit and participate in. That sort of stuff isn't allowed here (thank you moderators!). I post pictures here which are only in good taste and with a sense of humor sometimes. I'm here to express and explore what it is to be Me, not to find turn ons and hook ups!

[CharlaineCadence]

You sure your not a gg.....only we say this sort of stuff !

cheery
xx

I am certainly not a gg in body but have been told many times over i am at heart.

I want evryone to understand that I am not condeming anyone or being hipocrital ( yas another word i cant spell) I am just confused very confused. We transgendered people live a life that is ridiculed by the outside world greatly. Yet their are thouse who cause it to be worse by posting photos like this on the web. I only want to understand why. I admit I am very nieve at the whole concept. I have never gone looking for this stuff. Porn in gen makes me ill. and I am glad to have removed it from my life. I dont deny that at one time yes i looked at the trash put out by penthouse and playboy. But i Was at that time trying to live up to what I thought was normal male feelings. But it in reality sickens me. I feel this way over anything that exploites the female body for any reasions. Call me a prud, old fashened what ever, but I really just want to learn and understand really its all i want to do. I am soo sorry if i made any one upset this was not my intention. I was only asking so I might understand. I have read alot of posts and can see that some people did not seem to either understand that i asked more then one question. Or where just responding to the first question. I asked my questions in statements so that people could see that I was not trying to be judgemental. Again I am sorry

[FionaAlexis]

Charlaine,

First those who visit CD/TG sites even this nice one do so because they are TG - TV - CD - Admirer or connected to us in some way. Mr & Mrs Average wouldn't view tranny porn sites. And I doubt very much they'd stray on them by accident - well I suppose you might if the site has a common usage name. My point being that I doubt the public at large judge us by tranny porn. They judge us by what's put on the popular media - so if you have a beef it ought to be with Jerry Springer etc. not porn. And with those transsexuals who appear in that form of media. The media love gender benders. Fortunately we have also had a number of transsexuals in recent times who've provided a more positive image and more balance.

Ultimately we are all judged, by those who know us well, by how we live our own lives but unfortunately we don't fit community norms so it's always going to be an uphill battle with those who don't know us well.

You may still be confused - but people have a right to live their lives the way they wish - and not according to your standards or mine.

Fiona xx

[Angela Burke]

JoAnne,
I want to see those "Satan PJ's" now!

[CharlaineCadence]

Charlaine,

First those who visit CD/TG sites even this nice one do so because they are TG - TV - CD - Admirer or connected to us in some way. Mr & Mrs Average wouldn't view tranny porn sites. And I doubt very much they'd stray on them by accident - well I suppose you might if the site has a common usage name. My point being that I doubt the public at large judge us by tranny porn. They judge us by what's put on the popular media - so if you have a beef it ought to be with Jerry Springer etc. not porn. And with those transsexuals who appear in that form of media. The media love gender benders. Fortunately we have also had a number of transsexuals in recent times who've provided a more positive image and more balance.

Ultimately we are all judged, by those who know us well, by how we live our own lives but unfortunately we don't fit community norms so it's always going to be an uphill battle with those who don't know us well.

You may still be confused - but people have a right to live their lives the way they wish - and not according to your standards or mine.

Fiona xx

thank you Fiona

That honestly did help sorry is i was an arse

[FionaAlexis]

.....sorry is i was an arse

I never thought you were Charlaine - you seem like a very nice person. It's just a discussion - a debate.

Fiona xx

[Barb Valentine]

Some people have no class
Not like the Ladies here

[ReginaK]

I always believed they did it because they were looking for sex. Or at least looking to be found sexually attractive.