I remember a "Roseanne" episode when Darlene said she can not be like Becky .
Roseanne just just told her that it's just the kind of woman Becky wants to be... and you have be the kind of woman you want to be.
So what kind of woman do you like to be?
Personally I am more or less a "Becky" as I love being and dressing like a feminine woman.