Katrina,
You will figure out what works best for you , in my case I perfer more freedom but I place family value a head ,, This also keeps me in check ,it tames the never satisfied beast ...But more than any of that..It's who I really am and thats hard to change, I know I do not want to live 24/7 as a women ,that would become boring, dressing for me above all is an escape..
It's taken me a long time to accept it ( not 100%) adjust my life to fit it in and become a better person by doing so.. Don't get me wrong I still have issue about the urges but I keep myself at a happy medium..
