A few times over the last couple of years, I have felt like I'm ready to take the step of going full time, and I get all of my courage up, and I feel justified and clear headed.
This usually happens after a few months of converting from male to female after work nearly every day, and in much, if not all of my spare time. After basically living as much as a female as I can, I would get the overwhelming urge to go full time, consequences be damned.
But when I step out of my haze, and re-enter reality, I get really scared and start to worry, and all of that clarity I thought I had, becomes very unclear. So I would stop for a while, grow a goatee and some leg hair. This has happened once a year for the last three.
Times have changed for me and I am actively coming out now. I told my Mom last month, my older brother and his wife know, my ex knows, I'm sure my younger brother knows and my Dad wont be all that surprised.
The thing is I feel strangely calm, almost serene. Most likely the burden of secret is beginning to ease.
I've been waiting for the fear to come back, but it's late in the cycle this time, and it may be gone. I have been very realistic with myself on things where I was not before, like passing and transitioning.
Before, when I thought I was looking good(which in hindsight, I looked just fine)I would go to a store and see a petite, beautiful sales clerk and know that I can NEVER change my height, or hand size, or foot size, I would feel devastated inside , It felt like when someone breaks your heart, in fact it felt EXACTLY like heartbreak because that is what was happening.
This time feels different, I'm very optimistic.
Has anyone ever felt like this? Has "reality" ever crushed you?